As seen in the Jamaica Observer Newspaper
“He’s a man” is NOT a valid excuse for a man who cheats! Does this statement make anyone else’s skin crawl? “They can’t help themselves.” “All men cheat.” Actually, contrary to believe NOT ALL MEN CHEAT!! Ladies, we seriously need to collectively raise the bar for men. When did we become complacent with the idea of our man cheating? By saying things like “he’s a man,” we are condoning these behaviors.
YES men CAN help themselves. There is no such thing as UncontrollablePenis Disease! Believe it or not, they have just as much self control as the female sex, whether they choose to execute it is the question. Cheating is not like slipping on a banana peel. You don’t slip an fall in someone’s bed or between someone’s legs. You simple CHOOSE to IGNORE your conscience. When a man cheats, remember, he has the good angel on one shoulder and the bad on the other. Whether he chooses to listen to the angel or the devil speaks a lot to his character. Do you really want to be with a man who cracks under pressure?
If he cheats once, he will probably cheat again. I’m not saying people don’t make mistakes an can’t learn from these mistakes. I’m saying after you do something wrong one time, it becomes easier to do the second time. Think of the first time you did something wrong, and how easy it became to do it again after that first time? Like playing hooky from school. Doing something wrong gives you and adrenaline rush. A quick high. Crack users spend forever trying to achieve that first high. Trust can be a difficult thing to rebuild so make sure it’s worth doing.
So why are we accepting cheating men? Why are we brushing it off like its nothing? If we don’t hold men accountable for their actions, and refuse to accept being cheated on, then men will never stop cheating. We are basically telling them its okay, we understand. If men can control their bladder then they can control where they put their private parts. They are fully competent and capable human beings.
When a man cheats it is a direct disregard for the relationship he is in. It is a blatant disrespect to the woman he is with. It is a total disregard for her feelings. It is in no way excusable. Raise the bar. When a poor person robs someone, they don’t get a slap on the wrist and someone saying “oh they couldn’t help it, they are poor.” They get sent to jail! In my book, there is no get out of jail free card. If you cheat on me, you don’t respect me, so therefore I should not be in a relationship with you. If you think all men cheat, I’m sorry, you are dating the wrong men.